The power of a relationship

The power of love

 In seeing and feeling ourselves through the other we will not only be shown our inherent basic goodness, but we will also witness the shadow aspects of ourselves that have been lurking within the unconscious yearning to be reclaimed and re-integrated.

When faced with those that show us our shadow do we run from them or do we make a choice to dance with and actually be in connection and communication with that which we fear most about ourselves?

I want to make a commitment to surrender to being vulnerable and learning to love the parts that even intensely polarize me to the other. I have realized that this polarity is a reflection of the resistance I have in accepting myself in someway. And in that polarity I have discovered that there is incredible wisdom and depths of connection just waiting to be tasted.

At the base, our “goals" in love won’t be truly realized without a simultaneous devotion to the path of unconditional self-love. For that is a gateway to unfathomable connection and sacred union. And one day you may discover that the actual realization of your goals in love, are that there are no goals. And, it is your complete surrender to being fully and completely with whatever aspect of your experience and relationship that is arising to be explored that will actually birth the connection you have been searching for all along.

Fear of our unconscious

Part of the beauty of our humanness is that we have the ability to be messy and it is often our most unskillful moments and suffering that results in a deeper unveiling of our unconscious aspects. This includes the shadow and the parts that we fear to expose and fear will never be loved or accepted.

On a path of complete isolation from human interaction, we can only go so far as to heal our wounds and especially our attachment wounds on our own. As a unified energetic organism pulsating with life, we thrive when we are in contact and relationship and open into greater dimensions of understanding through the gift of our relatedness.

When we have an opportunity to create real human connection and relationship, what gets in the way of our full reception of the experience?

Another’s love, interest, care, and even conflict, friction, or animosity, can not only illuminate the ways in which we most desire to be cared for and loved, but show us the places in which we aren’t fully honoring and loving ourselves.